Family Constellations
with objects
Family constellations with objects is a therapeutic method that uncovers hidden family patterns and unconscious dynamics affecting your life. It helps reveal what is controlling or limiting you—those unseen loyalties and repetitive cycles passed down through generations. By using objects to represent family members and important situations, this approach makes these invisible influences visible, so you can understand and address what needs healing and love to create positive change.
The journey of Family Constellation: from awareness to healing
Identifying the issue
The first step in a family constellation session is to safely explore the client’s presenting concern, which often stems from deeply embedded family dynamics or unspoken emotional burdens. This phase involves gently uncovering unconscious patterns, loyalties, or unresolved conflicts that influence current behaviors and feelings. By bringing these hidden issues into conscious awareness, the client begins to create space for understanding and healing.
Externalizing the pattern
This principle highlights that every member of a family system has an inherent right to belong and must be treated with equal respect, no matter their actions or fate. When this balance is disrupted—such as through exclusion or unfair treatment—it can cause emotional blockages and difficulties that affect the whole system. Restoring this order helps to release limiting patterns and bring peace and connection back to the family network.
Restoring harmony & honoring
Using objects as representatives allows clients to step outside themselves and visually see the relationships and dynamics at play. This physical arrangement creates a clear external perspective, making hidden patterns and root causes more understandable. It encourages a powerful shift in awareness and opens the door for emotional breakthroughs and healing. By seeing the system from the outside, clients gain insights that are often difficult to access through words alone.
Integrating and healing
The final step involves the client consciously absorbing the insights gained from seeing the system from outside themselves. This awakened awareness fosters emotional release, breaks limiting cycles, and invites new, healthier ways of relating to oneself and others. Healing continues beyond the session as these new perspectives root deeply, allowing for lasting peace, connection, and growth within the family and personal life.
By embracing the paths walked by our ancestors, we open the door to healing and a brighter future.
Family constellations, developed by Bert Hellinger, guide us to explore the hidden, unconscious loyalties and systemic roots within our family history that shape our current behaviors and emotional challenges. This gentle yet powerful process helps reveal unseen family dynamics by respectfully placing representatives or meaningful objects that symbolize family members, creating a living map of our shared history.
Bert Hellinger’s concept of the “Orders of Love”—belonging, order, and balance—are universal laws that this method restores, helping each family member find their rightful place. By honoring these connections with compassion, family constellations open a path to healing, breaking inherited patterns, and fostering peace and renewed life.
Testimonial
“I participated in an online constellation session with Monica, and the experience was absolutely wonderful. The power of the spoken phrases was simply liberating.
For over a week, I was in a deep state of tension. Emotionally, I was very unstable—I cried at everything, and nothing seemed to help. Meditation, prayers, nothing could lift me from the shadow I had entered. My mind was in turmoil. Though everything around me seemed fine, inside I felt as if an entire army was holding me back—I had no clarity, couldn’t think clearly, and struggled to function in daily life. Sadness overwhelmed me, and I felt close to depression.
After just two hours of work with Monica, that heavy feeling lifted. I feel I can breathe again. I enjoy life once more. I am happy again. The session was truly transformative, profound, and revealing.
Thank you from the heart, Monica! I wholeheartedly recommend you. “
Cristina Toader, Doctor and Founder of Neoclinique Dental Clinic
Begin your journey of healing and bring harmony to yourself and your family system.
Taking the first step requires courage—trust your soul to guide you toward transformation.
How the Family Constellation session typically flows
Genogram
Unveiling
Integrating
60 min
Exploring the family tree with a genogram
The session begins by creating a detailed visual map of your family history using a genogram. This advanced family tree highlights not only genealogical information but also relationships, emotional connections, and significant life events across generations. Through this mapping process, recurring behaviors, patterns, and hidden influences become evident, providing a clearer understanding of how your family system shapes your current experiences. The genogram serves as an essential tool for recognizing transgenerational trauma, attachment dynamics, and repeated coping styles, offering valuable insights for the healing journey ahead.
60 min
Choosing representatives, arranging, and observing
Representatives are selected—usually unknown to the client at first—to embody family members or elements, allowing the subconscious to express freely. The facilitator then guides the client to intuitively place these representatives in the space according to their inner sense. As the representatives take their positions, emotions and underlying patterns naturally emerge. Sometimes, profound healing occurs simply by witnessing these dynamics come to light. The facilitator carefully observes this process to reveal hidden family influences and facilitate insight and resolution.
30 min
Integration, reorganization, and healing phrases
In the final phase of the session, the facilitator guides the reorganization of the constellation to restore balance and harmony within the family system. During this time, carefully chosen healing statements are spoken aloud—these powerful phrases help to release emotional blockages, acknowledge unresolved feelings, and bring a sense of closure. This process supports lasting emotional release, inner peace, and the transformation of inherited patterns, helping individuals move forward with renewed clarity and well-being.
Top benefits and life-changing applications of Family Constellation Therapy
Family constellation therapy offers powerful support for healing life’s most difficult challenges. This approach helps reveal and transform deeply rooted patterns across mental, emotional, physical, and relational issues. Individuals commonly use family constellations to:
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Overcome depression, anxiety, grief, and obsessive thoughts by addressing generational causes.
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Break free from addictive behaviors and unhealthy habits through insight into family traumas and emotional wounds.
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Improve relationships and resolve conflicts within families—particularly parent-child, partner, and sibling dynamics.
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Release past trauma, excessive guilt, household dysfunction, and self-sabotage for greater emotional and personal freedom.
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Address physical illnesses and chronic health problems linked to unresolved family issues.
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Heal negative cycles and failures at work or financial stress by unblocking hidden loyalties and subconscious patterns.
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Foster compassion, forgiveness, and long-lasting transformation by gaining clarity about ancestral influences.
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Bring awareness to the fundamental laws of family constellations, understanding that not respecting or honoring these laws can bring harm over generations and lifetimes.
Family Constellation Therapy FAQ:
Everything you need to know
What is family constellation therapy and how does it work?
Family constellation therapy is a holistic, experiential process that reveals hidden family dynamics, unresolved trauma, and generational patterns that influence emotional, physical, and relational well-being. Sessions use representatives (people or objects) to embody family members, allowing subconscious patterns to surface and facilitating healing through guided exploration.
Can family constellation therapy be done online or remotely?
Yes, I offer online sessions via Zoom, so you can join from anywhere. It’s important to use a computer with a stable internet connection to clearly see the placement of objects during the session. For the constellation itself, we use a special platform called Cecitool, which lets us arrange and interact with the elements virtually. Please ensure your internet is strong to have the best experience.
How long does a family constellation session last?
A family constellation session typically lasts for 2.5 hours. This extended duration ensures there is enough time to thoroughly explore your family system, process all emotional insights, and allow for meaningful transformation and integration within a single session.
How much does a family constellation session cost?
The family constellation sessions last 2.5 hours, allowing ample time for deep exploration and emotional processing. The price for this session is €150, reflecting the personalized attention and transformative healing involved. This fee ensures you receive the support and guidance necessary to uncover and resolve deep-rooted family dynamics.
How do I book a family constellation session?
You can easily reach out to me by email at armoniahello@gmail.com or by phone at 0032498381411. Alternatively, you can fill out the contact form on my website. Feel free to get in touch anytime, and I will personally guide you through the booking process and answer any questions you may have.
What issues or problems can family constellation therapy help with?
Will my family members need to participate in the session?
No, the process can be completed solo or in a group using representatives or objects; your family members do not need to be present or involved for you to experience results.
Do I need to know my family history in detail to benefit?
No—while a genogram or partial family history is helpful, healing can occur even if you know little about your relatives. The process works with the information you have and the emotional resonance present in your system.
Is family constellation therapy backed by scientific research?
Some studies report moderate improvements in anxiety, depression, emotional release, and relationship quality, though more research is needed. Many users find it transformative for emotional and relational well-being.
What do I need to prepare before a family constellation session?
Before your session, it’s important to set a clear goal or intention—think about what you want clarity on or what healing you wish to invite into your life. Make sure you will be in a calm, quiet environment, free from distractions and noise, so you can fully focus and be present. Come with an open heart and a willingness to embrace whatever arises during the process. This mindset will help you get the most from your family constellation experience.